Category: Kids & Parenting

A  while back I resolved that there would never be a Tickle Me Elmo or any other equally annoying derivative of the silly little red monster in my house. I’m just not very fond of the little guy at all.

I don’t know where my hatred for Elmo stems from actually.  As a child I was an avid watcher of Sesame Street so you would think that I would have at least some kind of a bond with the him.  Perhaps it was the craziness that occurred when the first Tickle Me Elmo was released.  That has to be it.

That’s why, when my Brother-in-law asked me a while back if I was going to get Zach the TMX for Christmas I said "Hell NO!"  I was certainly not going to buy into the craze and lose my dignity over a little red doll.  When he asked if he could get it for Zach my initial reaction was a strong NO.  Then I thought about it some more and realized just how much Zach would love it and told him if he really wanted to get it for him it would be okay.  Apparently he dropped the idea, which I was just fine with.

Between then and now, Zach has gone a little Elmo crazy.  The boy loves him some Elmo.  He asks for his Elmo jammies at night after his bath.  He has Elmo slippers that he would wear all of the time if I hadn’t bought them just a little bit too big for him (they tend to fall off his feet about 2 seconds after we put them on).  He has a set of Sesame Street books that have Elmo in every single one.  He carries these books around the house like they are glued to his hands. 

So, reluctantly, I added the TMX Elmo to the Amazon wishlist that I keep for the relatives to give them gift ideas for Zach.  My mom saw the Elmo on there and decided that she wanted to get him one.  I had pretty much ruled out the idea of anyone getting it for him when I saw what the prices had escalated to.  Apparently, my mom decided money was not an issue and just bought him one for $89 on Ebay.

I’m actually happy that Zach will have his Elmo on Christmas morning.  I really think he will love it probably more than anything that I’ve purchased for him so far.  I’m just really disappointed that my mom bought into the hype and spent that much money on a toy that will be played with for a few months and then forgotten.  I’m also really disappointed that someone just made a huge profit because of my mom’s impulse purchase.  I know I can’t control everything, but I sure do wish she would have asked me about it before she spent that kind of money.  For one thing, I happen to know that she doesn’t have that kind of money to spend.

The kid will be 18 months old the day after Christmas.  Do you really think he’ll appreciate the fact that she spent $89 on his gift.  Do you have any idea what I could have done with that much money? 

I got to thinking this morning about tantrums.  Part of it was spurred on by a post over at Ask Moxie (who totally rocks with the parenting advice), and part by the tantrums that Zach has suddenly started throwing when he doesn’t get his way.  The tantrums aren’t necessarily a new thing, but they are becoming more and more frequent here lately.  They first started showing up when the in-laws were here and have gotten increasingly more dramatic since then.

Zach’s tantrums, as far as I can figure out, are usually caused by either a need for attention or because he just doesn’t get his way.  This morning, as we were leaving the house he threw one of his tantrums.  When he wakes up early in the morning I usually turn the TV on for him and let him watch cartoons while I finish getting ready and take the dogs out.  Today, however, he actually slept later so I didn’t get him up until I was ready to go.  We went through the normal routine of getting him dressed and brushing his teeth.  I got him a cup of milk and then grabbed his coat to put on before we headed out the door.  Apparently he wasn’t ready to leave and wanted to watch TV.  He ran into the living room and pointed at the TV, waiting for me to turn it on.  When I told him that we couldn’t watch TV and had to go bye-bye, the tantrum commenced.  It continued as I forced his coat on him, wrestled him into his car seat, and drove to day care.  Every second of that tantrum was torture for me.  It was my fault because I messed up his routine.

I don’t see myself as the type of mom that always gives in.  Sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t.  It all depends on the circumstances.  But, I absolutely hate having to tell Zach no when he has clearly communicated to me what he wants.  He is not old enough to understand the logic behind it.  He only gets that Mommy won’t let him do what he wants to do.  He doesn’t understand that we have to leave right now because Mommy doesn’t want to be late to work for the second day in a row.  I hate knowing that I am the cause of his distress and that I can’t make it better.  I hate when he pushes me away or swings his hands at me or attempts to bite me in anger because I have done something to upset him.  He is only 16 months old.  I can’t imagine what I’m going to feel like when he’s a teenager and I have to tell him that he can’t do what his friends are doing.  I hope at least by then he’ll understand that I’m doing it for his benefit.

I struggle with how to handle his tantrums.  The kid has a serious temper when he gets upset by something.  I see a lot of his Daddy coming out in him at times.  I have a temper too, but there is this irrational rage that I see come out from time to time that I know comes from Hubby’s side of the family.  Giving in to what he wants is never the answer because by the time the tantrum starts he is too angry and doesn’t even want it anymore.  I use the ignore method most of the time because giving him any attention seems to actually make the tantrum worse.  It is so hard to sit back and watch him, but I know that he will eventually settle down.  I wish I could find a better way, but I suppose until he learns to communicate better this will have to do.

There is a bit of a silver lining in all of this though.  After the tantrum, when he has settled down, I get some really good snuggle time with him.

Having kids in this day and age is scary.  You want to protect them from all of the harsh realities of the world, the child molesters, the school shootings, etc.  But who would have known that scrubbing some marks off the wall could end up seriously injuring your child?  If you have kids, or if you clean, you should go read this.